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Amanda Guglielmucci’s Strength in Official Interview

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The Adelaide Advertiser today released an interview with Amanda Guglielmucci.

For the sake of completeness in this story, and because of the tens of thousands of people who are coming here to find out about this sad state of affairs, I’m posting it here.

Speaking exclusively to The Advertiser, Amanda Guglielmucci, 29, defended her husband, who faked a two-year battle with cancer.

She insisted he was a good man, trapped by lies which had spiralled out of control.

“I know he’s not an evil man, there’s not evil in his heart,” she said.

Mrs Guglielmucci, who is staying in their Sydney home while Michael is with his family in Adelaide’s southern suburbs, said she would try to salvage her marriage.

“I know that I love him, I know that much,” she said.

“We’re just not going to rush anything, we’re gonna walk through the process, however slowly it needs to happen, in order for the healing and restoration to be complete and then we’ll go from there.”

She has turned to a counsellor to help cope with her husband’s massive deception, which has shocked not only his family’s church, Edge Church International, but the world-wide Christian movement.

“I’m actually seeking professional counselling myself. I need to be able to unravel a lot of emotion that’s bombarding me at the moment, I owe it to myself to work through that properly, and to him,” she said.

“I had questions after the shock of it all, but my initial thoughts after hearing that were a sense of sorrow for the church and that a lot of people were going to be hurt because of it.”

Just 15 days ago, the world-renowned pastor and songwriter sat his wife of seven years down at their Sydney home and told her the awful truth.

“I was the first one he told, he confessed everything to me,” Mrs Guglielmucci said.

“He just went through it – where it had started, everything in his life as a young kid, the patterns. He was crying, sobbing actually, absolutely sobbing, he just said `I don’t have cancer’.

“He was terrified, I still remember the look on his face . . . it was a very hard moment for him, as it was for me hearing it.”

Despite his elaborate deception and his admission of an addiction to adult pornography, Mrs Guglielmucci said it was feelings of sympathy and shock rather than anger that overwhelmed her.

“I could just see a really broken, unwell man. At that point I found it really quite hard to get angry,” she said.

“Seeing your husband of seven years absolutely sobbing in front of you, risking everything coming forward and telling the truth – in that instance it was really hard to be angry or mad.”

Mrs Guglielmucci said she understood people struggled to believe she could not have known her husband was faking his illness. However, she maintained his real symptoms – vomiting, hair loss and apparent pain – never gave her reason to suspect otherwise.

“I never questioned it, when you love someone you trust them. I had no reason not to trust him,” she said.

“Perhaps I feel a little bit foolish in this, hindsight’s a fabulous thing . . . but I’m trying not to beat myself up.”

Mrs Guglielmucci even quit work to look after her ailing husband. “In the middle of the night he was in so much pain I would put towels in the microwave to try and give him some relief in his back,” she said.

However, she never attended doctors’ appointments with him, a move she now regrets.

“Before I stopped working to care for him, I was busy, he’d have doctor’s appointments when I couldn’t be there and he would say `it’s fine you don’t need to be there’,” she said.

“Or I would just drop him off at the hospital.”

While his initial confession to his wife did include his addiction to porn, Mrs Guglielmucci said she had not even begun to process that element of his deception.

“We’re only talking two weeks (since admitting his lies), there’s a lot of stuff to deal with,” she said.

“That sort of side of things hasn’t really hit me yet, there’s many levels and layers to everything. I can almost talk about it like I’m removed from it. That’s where the professional help will help me work through that – it hasn’t hit me yet.”

Mrs Guglielmucci said her faith in God had remained unmoved throughout the ordeal.

“At times like this, it’s just a stronger resolve,” she said.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – pray for them all – all of the Guglielmucci family. Hold them in your prayers.

Written by Planetshakers Insider

August 27, 2008 at 9:45 pm

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  1. I admire her strength and commitment, both to her marriage and to God. She has my utmost respect.

    Grace

    August 27, 2008 at 10:41 pm

  2. Me too!

    I’ve got to be honest, with all she’s gone through, and the trust she’s going to have to work to rebuild, I don’t know if I would be as courageous as she is.

    Planetshakers Insider

    August 27, 2008 at 10:52 pm

  3. I believe that there is a more complete story to be told, that would accentuate Mike’s struggles as a good man and a mere human being, like you and I.

    Kevin

    August 28, 2008 at 12:50 am

  4. That is amazing. What a woman! She seem’s to be so willing to take this in her stride, her attitude seems so healthy.

    Makes me ache more for this whole situation that surrounds her.

    IB

    August 28, 2008 at 9:21 am

  5. i felt sad until i read that she was working and too busy … who is too busy for sick family? really dont get it … i wish her well in her journey to recover from this.

    ralph

    August 29, 2008 at 12:46 am

  6. Wow!
    What a courageous woman of God!!
    I have to say that if I were in that situation I would probably walk away!
    Amanda had taught us a lesson about what a marriage is truly about
    Her faith and compassion is truly inspiring!
    A true heart after God!

    My prayers and love go out to all involved

    Clara

    August 29, 2008 at 10:49 am

  7. A lot of folks, women primarily, put up with pornography addiction under the misguided notion ‘love and support’ would eventually heal the addicted person out of this wickedness. Sincerely, sentimentally, misguided folks.

    The sad fact is porn addiction is like any other type of addiction: it thrives in an atmosphere of well-meaning misguided ‘enablers.’

    Part of me wonders if this is not the reason Mike Guglielmucci’s been trapped in this addiction for so many years – that he might’ve been surrounded by ‘enablers.’

    I wonder also if his spouse understands the concept of ‘enabling’ and how it contributes to her husband’s tragic addiction.

    Had to mention this because a close family friend just lost her marriage. Her porn addicted husband, a professing Christian, promised for years to kick the habit. Swore her to secrecy. Never kicked the habit. She’s leaving because he’s starting to show the stuff to their baby boy. Sad, sad case.

    heimi

    August 29, 2008 at 5:02 pm

  8. ralph, you said:

    “i felt sad until i read that she was working and too busy … who is too busy for sick family? really dont get it …”

    To respond, this was in the article:

    “Mrs Guglielmucci even quit work to look after her ailing husband”

    She left work to look after him, that shows that she did place her family above her work. I realise you were responding to a later statement in the article, but if someone says to you ‘it’s fine you don’t need to be there’, you probably arent going to not go to work. And she did take him to the hospital. And, if Mike insisted enough that she need not be at the doctors appointments, she probably would have let him have it his way. Its hard to do something when someone is insisting that it doesnt matter if you’re with them or not…

    Steve

    August 30, 2008 at 4:14 am

  9. Wow, what can I say but to look to God for His Love and forgiveness. I really admire you Mrs G. sorry I find the last name too long but you are a hero in your own rights and I know that you have been grace by Jesus to touch other women in the world with similar stories or may be even stuff that is still hidden. I will be praying for you and your husband marriage and the G… family for God’s healing and restoration.

    richie

    August 30, 2008 at 6:20 pm

  10. Yeah that is huge. Stay strong Amanda. I’ve walked through deception too. It was bad enough for me to want to contemplate committing suicide, even as a christian woman. And We are not immune from tormenting spirits who want to steal, kill & to destroy us and our futures, especially when the gateway to the spirit of deception has opened up and entered into our lives. All it takes is for one partners mind, will & emotions to become entangled with sin, that then causes a strong hold in various forms, for the two who are already one. So Worship… & SING beautiful Lady even though you don’t understand any of this. It’s been 5 years & I am elated to write that I have not become a victim to divorce or suicide & still continue today to serve & follow Jesus together with my husband & our children. Jesus is the only restorer of all chaos who is faithful to complete the good work that has begun in you & Mike. It will be worth it. Our prayers are with you.

    Heather

    September 3, 2008 at 4:55 pm


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